Some Things I Have Learned Along The Way

1. When God gives you a vision, move quietly & tell no one. There is a reason HE gave that vision to YOU.

2. The best revenge is to LIVE WELL. Satan loves to see you doing bad, don't even give him the satisfaction of knowing you are hurt, mad & upset. Live your live according to God's will and be happy! Don't get mad if someone does you wrong, make it a part of your testimony & keep going. Trying to get back at someone will only keep you in the devil's cycle of spreading hatred.

3. When you decide to walk in the LIGHT, let your old ways fade to black...You cannot serve two masters, you cannot live in both light & darkness at the same time...You cannot walk in the Spirit if you are a slave to the flesh.

4. Prayer REALLY DOES change things. Pray about your situations & hand them over to God. Like they say, if you're going to Pray then don't worry. Let go & Let God!! God will show up & show out and work things in your favor if you put all your trust in HIM. He has your best interest at heart even when you don't.

5. Don't make God your co-pilot, make him your Pilot. Let Him do the work, you just follow HIS lead.

6. Have unwaivering FAITH in the Lord. Believe in HIM always. Believe that HE will bless you beyond measure if you just have faith.

7.Let your Trials be your TESTIMONY. Don't get mad, don't hold grudges, don't push people away and burn bridges & don't give up. No matter what you're going through just know that you will never be given more than you can bear. HE knows your strength. You can scream " I cant do it" all day long, but HE will be right beside you saying "YES YOU CAN!" And when you conquer your battles, let them be your testimony. Share them with those around you, you never know how your story can impact the life of someone else. Like someone told me, "your trials aren't for you, they are for everyone else." Everything you go through is for a reason.

8. The way to someone's heart is not through their stomach, or thier flesh...it's through their SPIRIT. Ladies, some say that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach..Lets be real... You can feed him all day, you can love him all day & you can "lay" with him all day but if you can't touch his SPIRIT its a lost cause. On the other hand, a man may touch you physically, get all up in your mind & even in your feelings but if he does nothing for your SPIRIT...If he cant touch you SPIRITUALLY, then what's the point? Is he even worth the time? If there is no spiritual connection between a man & a woman, then God's hand is no where in it. . . I learned that one the hard way. Now I'm like, if a man isn't SAVED he can keep it moving. Why should I even give life to a situation that will only end in death? And I dont mean a physical death, but rather the death of the relationship when things start going wrong. Spare your feelings, wait for God to send you that " special someone." This will be the person who loves you so much and so deep that he carries you in his spirit, shows you with his actions and always has your best interest at heart. Men, find you a praying woman & Ladies, find you a praying man!


Be Blessed Everyone :-)




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She Grows (By His Grace)

She Grows (By His Grace)
By Kevina Joy
She fights hard like a warrior, but often leaves the battle bruised
Spiritually broken down and often feeling misused
The pain of it all she buries deep in her soul
The weight of this burden surely takes its toll
She seeks the companionship for which she was designed
Straight from the rib of her mate in the beginning of time
Centuries ago he handled her heart with care
But as time has evolved he acts like she’s not even there
She’s left to take on as many roles as she can
Head of household, sole provider, both the woman & the man
She grows tired in spirit and weary at heart
The role of playing superwoman is tearing her apart
Trying to keep it all together, taking care of house and home
Keeping everybody happy, while still she feels alone
She cries out to her God; she’s lonely, tired & annoyed
Asking why has He forsaken her and left her with this void
But then she suddenly realizes that her God, the most high
Has been with her all the way, He had never left her side
All her trials and tribulations worked together for her good
They made her stronger & wiser, just as God had known they would
He spoke power & protection over her life and her home
And she knew that going forth, she would never be alone
It was the greatest realization and now that she knows
She heals, she forgives, she prays and she grows

Liberation

Well, as you can see I haven't posted anything on here in a while....so you know what that means. I backslid... The last few months have been the most challenging, but also the most rewarding because at the end of the tunnel, I found the light. I have recieved emails on my facebook page where people have asked me why I haven't been writing and really there is no good excuse, I just fell off. But I do apologize for going AWOL on those of you who think to stop by and read my blog. Nobody has started following my blog so I really didnt even know if people were still checking, but the emails let me know that you are :)
As some of you know I am diabetic and on 02/07/10 I woke up having trouble breathing and having heart palpitations. I had no energy, I was dehydrated & tired. For the last few years my diabetes tests have been coming in within normal range so it was kind of the last thing I suspected. I ended up in the hospital and the first thing they did was check my glucose levels. The machine read "Critically High" followed by my nurse saying "Oh S***!" Now, when your nurse has that kind of reaction....not good. The next day was spent in a hospital bed with countless rounds of insulin trying to get my body stable, as well as an IV for the dehydraytion, an Insulin drip & a Potassium drip. I was scared. The nurses just couldnt seem to get me stable and all I could think of was dying. But lo and behold, I serve a God that is greater than any obstacle placed in my way. I was sent home on 5 insulin shots a day. One in the morning, and one shot to be taken 4 times a day with breakfast, lunch, dinner and a bed time snack. But I prayed against it. Within a week my insulin levels went back to normal and I was down from 5 shots a day to just one....and hopeful that I can get off of that one too. According to the Drs. 70% of patients get off of insulin within the first 3 months, I'm praying to be in that 70%.

Anyway, for the last couple of weeks...ever since I got out of the hospital, I have just been feeling different. When I was sick I just kept thinking about not being here. What would I have accomplished if something had happened to me and what would my son's life be like if I wasnt here , would he even remember me? He's only 2. It just made me look at a lot of things, situations and people differently. I want to enjoy my life & get closer to God...I think that young people always have it in the back of thier mind s that we have all this "time" but when I was sick, I wasnt sure that I had time or how much time I even had. It may sound a little dramatic but when I was in the hospital the doctor told me if I had waited another 24 hours I wouldnt be here because I was entering a phase of diabetes that used to have a fatality rate of over 95%. I was in the hospital thinking, I dont want to die like this...I wanted a chance to evolve mentally & spiritually so that my life would not be in vain. As high as my glucose levels had been for the past few months, I could have slipped into a coma, had a stroke, heart attack, went blind, lost a limb....at 26! God sustained and kept me even when I didnt even know I was sick and I owe Him so much for that. I owe Him my life. In the past few weeks I have started phasing people out of my life, coming to terms with things that happened in my past, learning how to forgive the people who have hurt me the most that I was holding grudges against, learning how to be a better mother and learning how to love myself and God on a deeper level. The whole process for me has been liberating because I feel like for the first time, I get a chance to define me. Not people, or situations or my background. I get to decide today who I want to be. Even down to my hair, I dont have to keep weave in it or keep perming it to fit in with the norm, I can cut my hair and go natural...just the way God made me. It feels great. I know that 2010 is my year because I feel different, I think about all the things that can come my way this year and I get excited. Even when I think about God I get overjoyed and I have all these feelings towards HIM that I have never felt, I realized the other day that I dont just love God, I have fallen IN LOVE with God. I feel like I have something great coming towards me & even though I dont know what it is, I'm still excited! I truly do feel like I have been set free.

Somebody's Knocking At Your Door...

My cousin and I were watching a clip on youtube where one of the Clark sisters was giving a testimony about a health scare that litterally left her clingy to life. At the end she said that she realized then that "Man's extremity is God's opportunity." I thought that was deep. What she meant by that is sometimes things can get so bad for us that we start feeling depressed, alone and unhappy. We start feeling like giving up because, as far as we can see, no good is going to come out of the situation. But these times are some of the most critical spiritual times in our lives, they are so much more important than what we can see at the time because we are blinded by all the things that WE see that WE cant do. These are the times when we need to realize that some things we just have to give to God and let him work out the details. When we are faced with situations where we feel like our backs are against the wall and there is no where to turn to, no where to run and no one to have our backs we need to realize that its just God knocking on our doors asking us when we are going to stop trying to play superman/woman and let him in. Extreme situations are opportunities for God to come in and take over. Many times we block ourselves from blessings because we are too stubborn to give in; God is trying to work things out in our favor but he cant because we keep putting our hands in the way. We let our stubborness, pride and attitudes get in the way of God trying to bless us. It is at these times when we just need to fall back, take our hands off the situation and just let God come in and fix it. We just need to throw our hands up and praise him and thank him in advance for working out situations, even if we cannot see a way out. The more we praise him, submit to his will and give him complete control over our lives, the more he is able to bless us in ways that we may have never imagined. Thats the kind of God we serve! So the next time you find yourself between a rock and a hard place, throw your hands up and just thank him for what he is about to step in and do for you. Praise him in advance for the miracles and blessings that he is getting ready to throw your way; open the door and let him come in and work it out for you. That is how you set yourself up to be blessed.

My Momma was Right!

About a week or two ago, me and my mother had a minor dispute on Facebook about my language. She felt that I shouldn’t say certain things on Facebook and I felt like it’s my Facebook account so I can say whatever it is that I want. So, I’ve been thinking about this. Now, I have said that I am trying to get my life on track and that a lot of the things I do or say may not always be in alignment with what God wants for me. Well my language is one of them. As we go through life we pick up a lot of bad habits and a lot of the times our language is one of them. The bible says that "death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits" (Proverbs 18:21) and in another scripture that "better is a poor man who walks in his integrity than a man who is perverse in speech, and is a fool " (Proverbs 19:1). I know that sometimes when we get mad its easy for us to blow up and say things of reckless nature to get our point across, but you can get your point across just as effectively by using respectable language. The bible goes on to say " And the tongue is a fire. The tongue is an unrighteous world among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the cycle of nature and set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by humankind, but no human being can tame the tongue; a restless evil full of deadly poison." (James 3:6-8)
Now that I am trying to get closer to the Lord, I realize that it is time for me to change my actions and my speech as well. I can change my thought process, but who will know it if I continue to use vile language? It would all be in vain. The word says “So with yourselves; if you in a tongue utter speech that is not intelligible, how will anyone know what is said? For you will be speaking into the air.” (1Corinthians 14:9) And also states “If anyone thinks he is religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this man’s religion is vain.” (James 1:26)
I know that my responsibility as a Christian is to share the word of God and to spread the word of God to non believers. In order to accomplish this I have to lead by example so that people can see how God has worked in my life. I have to walk the walk AND talk the talk if I am going to get anyone to listen.
So, with that being said, I am going to admit (yes publicly on the internet) that my mother was RIGHT!

Be blessed all and remember there is power of life and death in the tongue. Choose to speak life into existence because nothing comes from death but heartache and sorrow.

My Journey to Christ

Ok, so I have decided to return to my roots. As a child I loved to write. In fact, I would often use writing as a way to express my feelings and my thoughts. I don’t know why but when I was younger it was hard for me to express myself verbally. I was always afraid of what someone would say, what they would think and how they would react. I was afraid of offending someone or of getting in trouble for expressing how I felt. I learned that it was much easier to get things off of my chest by writing it down and then I could decided if or who I would share it with. The problem was that I often found myself writing things down on a piece of paper or in a journal and then later disposing of it. They were what I called empty words. They didn’t mean anything if no one knew what they said, right? Well this time I am writing with a purpose, one that I want to share with everyone.
Over the last few years I have gone through many things. Some good, some bad; some minor and some life changing. But what I learned was that they all worked together for my good. In a way they all brought me closer to God.
“And we know that all things work together for the good to them who love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
So why am I writing? Well, now that I am a little older and a lot wiser J I want to share my journey to Christ with everyone. I am a believer, but I also know that a lot of the things that I do, say or think about may not always be aligned with the purpose that God has for me. What I hope to accomplish with this blog is to be able to let people see that there is no such thing as a “perfect” Christian. We all, at some point, will fall short of the will of God, it’s inevitable! No matter how hard we try we will mess up because we are not perfect, nor were we created to be perfect. The important part is learning from our mistakes, picking ourselves up and moving forward on the right path.
In everything that we do there is a message. I plan to use this blog to reflect on my experiences, what I learned from them and what I believe God was trying to teach me by allowing me to go through them. Hopefully it will make me more aware, and better prepare me for future life experiences. And I also hope that my blogs will speak to someone out there who may be dealing with the same issues.

Welcome to my journey to Christ.

Where is your self esteem?

What is it about young ladies that makes them feel that their identity is defined by a man? Or what about middle aged women who are still searching for that right one? What is it that makes women feel that they are inadequate until a man comes along and tells them that they are beautiful? Why do we as women have a problem loving ourselves?

When I look in the mirror I see a beautiful woman who is educated, loving, caring, trustworthy, down to earth and honest, among many things. But I did not always feel that way about myself. I used to actively search for love in all the wrong places with all the wrong guys looking for acceptance and love, but when it all failed I would sit there wondering what was wrong with me. I've been through it, but now I am a completely different person. My life and my situations didn't change until I fell in love with me. I learned to love who I was and to be comfortable in my own skin.

Self respect, self love and self worth is something that I see missing in a lot of women. It really bothers me now when I see a woman crying because a man left her or cheated on her. I get enraged when I hear men talk about women as if they are a piece of meat because we are so much more than that. We are worth so much more than that.

Women need to learn how to boost their own self esteem. We need to learn how to love ourselves and how to define ourselves without relying on the thoughts and opinions of others. Any man who cannot respect you means you nothing but harm. Any man who can't be faithful to you, is not worth the tears or the time and definitely not worth carrying the title of your "boyfriend."

Proverbs 18:22 says that "he who findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord. " We were not meant to go out in the streets to find a man, we were meant to be found. Someone once told me that a woman should be so lost in God, that a man has to seek Him in order to find her. We focus all of our attention on men trying to please them, but how much attention do we put into pleasing God?

Being in love is a beautiful feeling, but its so much better when the feeling is mutual. You cant expect a relationship to last if he doesn't love you back. He can say that he loves you a thousand times, but I believe that love is an action word. Make him show you that he loves you. If he isn't willing to do that then maybe he is not the one that God made for you.

Stop settling for mediocre men, you will only hurt yourself in the long run. I met a woman the other day at a comedy show. She and her husband have been together for a long time and when she introduced her husband to me and my friend she said, "every woman should have one of these. This is a good man, every girl should have one of these!" That let me know that true love does exist, but we can't go out actively seeking a man thinking that every man will be a good man....that's just not gonna happen! So be patient and wait for God to reveal him to you. In the mean time work on you. Focus on God and building your self esteem. Work on realizing who you are and what you are worth. Once you realize it, you wont even need a man to define who you are.

Love you 1st.